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Fellatio is a term which describes a
method of having sex known also as "giving head", giving a
"blow-job", "sucking a cock" or any of a few dozen other slang
terms. Fellatio is the act of applying your lips to another man's
penis (or your own) with the purpose of rendering sexual pleasure.
Many men are partial to this kind of penile stimulation, and, of
course, many men are partial to this form of oral pleasure and enjoy
giving it very much.
Some
men believe females are incapable of performing fellatio. Obviously, this
belief is more widely held among gay men and bi-sexuals. Most men will
never know which is better because they either only have it done by a
woman or only have it done by a man. The blow jobs depicted in most
heterosexual porno movies would cause me to flee in terror. A factor in
this issue may be that women's mouths tend to be smaller than men's. It
also could be they lack enthusiasm, and perhaps since they don't have a
cock they are unaware of the potential hazards and rewards of oral sex. A
man's cock is a delicate instrument and must be blown carefully. The
cardinal rule: NO TEETH! NEVER BITE! What's really important to some men
is that they are also erotically stimulated by a hot, throbbing cock which
a woman doesn't have. The advice here is not intended for women anyway
because I am ignorant of how they think, feel, and otherwise interact with
heterosexual men.
There are
several possible positions for fellatio shown below. The man
receiving the blow job standing and the man giving the blow job
kneeling is quite common. Another common position is for the man
receiving the blow job to lie on his back on a bed while the other
man lies on his stomach between the other man's legs. Also quite
popular is one man standing or sitting on a table and the other man
standing or kneeling on the floor giving him service. Several other
positions are described later in this discussion, but position is
mostly only important in terms of making a suitable fit between cock
and mouth. Otherwise it is a matter of preference that many men
receiving blow jobs like to be standing and look down on the person
servicing them. It can also be a preference of the man giving the
blow that he likes to be kneeling or in some other submissive
position.
There are only a few tips to fellatio
that can be given. The best suggestion is that you practice at every
opportunity and pay attention to the signals you are receiving from
the man attached to the penis you are servicing. The lips and the
tongue are the major sources of stimulation, although the throat,
saliva, warm breath, and manual manipulation can be important
also.
It is with the lips and tongue that you
should apply the attention that will make him feel good. This can be
done in a variety of ways, such as sucking, blowing, licking,
swallowing, and swishing. Men usually respond well to pressure and
rhythm. A steady stroke will usually get the reaction you're looking
for.
Deep throating is taking the penis down
past your gag reflex. In reality, this particular sexual adventure
is very overrated since the corona of the glans (the area just below
the head of the cock) is usually the most senitive area of the penis
and is not highly stimulated by the
throat.
If the man's cock is too big to fit in your mouth, you may
be able to accomodate him by lying on a bed on your back with your
head hanging slightly over the side of the bed. Your partner can
then penetrate the throat without aggravating your gag reflexes!
Your gag reflexes may be lessened if you inhale deeply before first
swallowing the cock. As with other physical activities, you can warm
up for the event by opening your jaws as if to yawn. This will relax
the jaws and diminish the gag reflex and give you a greater ability
to take a big one without choking.
An advanced technique of deep throating requires you to
identify a muscle similar to a sphincter at the back of the throat.
With practice, you can tighten the passage of the throat and then
force the man's penis down through the restricted area of the
throat. The throat sphincter point is the place where you will think
that the cock has gone as far as it can go, but with experience and
a slight amount of pressure, it will go further. Once you have
accomplished swallowing a cock further than the gullet muscles, you
will learn to make it easier by opening up your jaw as far as
possible and allow the cock to move as deep as possible down your
throat.
This
advanced technique can be a challenge, but it can be incredibly
stimulating to the head of the man's cock. The alternating pressure
and release against the throat sphincter is a massaging technique
that provides immense pleasure for the well-endowed partner. This
technique may not work on an average or small cock because the
throat muscles are located about 7 or 8 inches behind the teeth.
Most men's cocks will not reach this deep and are not capable of
experiencing this pleasure. As one who has had the pleasure, I can
assure you it is grand.
Breath control is very important for sucking comfort. Proper
breath control enhances the experience for the recipient by allowing
you to maintain a prolonged ryhthmic motion. It also diminishes the
likelyhood you will accidentally gag or snag his foreskin on a
tooth. Inhale through the nose on the down stroke and hold your
breath for as many up-down strokes as possible and then exhale
through the nose on an upstroke. Try holding your throat all the way
down to the base and keep it there while you inhale. You will see
that even the biggest cocks in your throat do not block the
breathing passage.
One of the best ways to give fellatio is
with the lips and tongue, taking only as much as you can without
gagging. However, for those that want to deep throat, take the penis
as far as you can without choking, and then close your eyes and
concentrate, taking each quarter inch, telling yourself that you
won't choke, that you can take it out at any time, and slowly
swallow it down. Then rise off of it again,
slowly.
If the penis you are servicing is
uncircumcised, you may find it is stimulated easily by inserting
your tongue under the foreskin. A similar technique is to fill the
foreskin with saliva and swish it in and out. It is important to
know that an uncircumcised penis is much more sensitive than a
circumcised penis and must be treated accordingly. Uncircumcised men
can enjoy the sensation of the shaft skin moving back and forth over
the shaft and
glans.
Every
man's penis is different, and each one has a mind of it's own. Each has
it's own sensitive spots and its preferred ways of being handled. Listen
to the man attached to the penis. The sounds he makes and the sensations
of his body motions are the best clues that what you are doing is
right.
You can add stimulation to whatever of the penis you can't
fit into your mouth by grasping it in your hand. A nice touch
sometimes is to make a circle with the thumb and forefinger to
simulate an orifice opening. Some men like as much stimulation as
possible, and the feel of a wet mouth and a saliva-slicked hand are
enough to send them to the brink of orgasm very quickly. Other men
prefer the knowledge and sensation of having only the head of the
penis stimulated, and only with the
mouth.
One of the best positions for oral sex is the 69 position,
where each partner lies with their head by the other's genitals.
This can be accomplished with one man on top of the other, holding
himself slightly elevated with his knees, or side by side. In some
cases one man will stand upright and hold the other upside down by
grasping his arms around the other man's waiste. This position
requires substantial physical strength for one man and is rather
uncomfortable for the other. Such a position is difficult to
maintain long enough for either to achieve an
orgasm.
For
fellatio one form or another of the 69 position makes sense because most
cocks curve upwards, towards the head, and in the 69 position the curve of
the penis matches the curve of the throat.
For some men swallowing their semen is
important. They somehow feel that by swallowing their semen you are
completing the act of lovemaking and accepting a part of themselves
into your body. On the other hand, many men don't like the taste of
semen and can't bring themselves to swallowing it. Although the
degree of risk of acquiring AIDS or HIV from swallowing cum has been
debated for some time, the most recent guidelines rank this as risky
behavior. Discuss the issue beforehand-- let him know if you won't
swallow his cum, or if in fact you demand that he wear a condom. If
you are not concerned with using a condom, but the taste of semen is
unpleasant for you, letting him shoot on your face may be a suitable
compromise.
Some
time before AIDS or HIV was a health issue, I received regular blow jobs
from a man who always put a lubricant filled condom on my cock with his
lips. For me, the sensation was incredibly arousing and erotic. I still
prefer to be sucked while wearing a liberally lubricated condom. When
using a condom for oral sex, buy the unlubricated variety that are
slightly minted, then apply your own waterbased lubricant only to the
inside of the condom which will be placed over the other man's cock. A
condom also solves the issue of how the cum
tastes.
When performing fellatio, it is
important to be enthusiastic. (This may be what many females are
lacking when giving blow jobs.) You must love what you are doing or
to him, either because you love him or you love sucking cock. Even
better is if you love
both.
Some
variations, aside from deep throating, are blowing two cocks at the same
time. Two cocks touching or rubbing produces an exciting sensation. Two
mouths on one cock is another arousing experience. Some men like to
deepthroat facefuck. Some men like to be fucked in the ass while being
sucked, and many enjoy having their balls or asshole licked while being
blown. These are almost always a sure way to get a man to shoot his load
in a hurry. Some men like to hold or force the head of the guy who is
blowing them onto their cock. If you really enjoy sucking cock, prolonged
sessions of slow cock sucking and multiple orgasms can be fun. My own
personal best is seven orgams between 10PM and 8AM. Seven is also the most
number of times I have been able to bring another man to climax during the
course of a night together.
Some men like to get blow jobs only through a glory hole and
quite often men like only to give blow jobs through a glory hole.
Using a glory hole gives the cocksucker considerable more control
regarding technique. The glory hole also gives the man receiving the
blowjob more control in when he will ejaculate because he can
withdraw his penis if it is stimulated to the verge of ejaculation.
It is interesting how many men who think of themselves at 100%
heterosexual enjoy giving and receiving blow jobs through a glory
hole.
The glory hole also allows the person
receiving the blow job to fantasize about what he is doing with his
cock or what is being done with it. For the penile recipient, there
is more privacy to masturbate and, if desired, anononimity can be
maintained.
In some cases you can add intensity to
the erection and the blow job by using your free hand to apply
gentle pressure to the veins of the cock. By slightly restricting
the blood flowing out of the cock and allowing the blood to continue
flowing into the cock, you can significantly harden the cock and for
many men, increase the sensitivity, prolong the erection, and delay
the orgasm.
Cockrings are designed to allow blood to flow into the cock
and keep it in. The effects of a cockring can be achieved by simply
applying gentle pressure against the veins in the cock. The next
paragraph describes how to find the veins and arteries and the
functions of each.
The arteries shown in the cross-section diagram at left run
lengthwise through the penis near the center and pump blood into
into the corpus cavernosum area which makes the cock erect. The
veins in the penis shown in the cross-section diagram at left run
lenghtwise down the cock near the skin surface and pump the blood
out of the cock. The penis head, or glans, is an enlargement of the
corpus spongiosum.
Other
more far fetched blow jobs include using menthol toothpaste, Altoids,
icecubes, beer and various other liquids.
Not everyone is capable of performing fellation on themself,
but I suspect most men have tried. Although I am no longer capable
of doing this (due to increased age and a back injury) I was able to
enjoy the benefits of self fellatio for several years. No doubt some
men would find this completely repulsive, but it is a romance I
would very much like to rekindle. Those men who are capable of self
sucking are usually either endowed with a very long penis or
are very slim and limber or both, however some claim that technique is what makes the difference
and endowment and body size and limberness do not prevent anyone from doing it.
Some men go to extraordinary lengths to enable themselves to
achieve orgasm by autofellation. There are stories of men having a
surgical penis lengthening procedure in which the suspensory
ligaments which suspend the penis to the pubic bone are cut so that
the body of the penis can be elongated or advanced.
Another penis lengthening technique involves using weights
such as the American
Bodycrafters PLD device (Left) or the Circle Device from D France, Inc (Right). These
devices either stretch the penis or the penis
ligaments.
In Hollywood there are rumors that Marilyn Manson had his
lower set of ribs surgically removed so that he would be limber
enough to suck his own cock.
If you still have a free hand, many men
enjoy having their balls played with while receiving a blow job. In
many cases this will greatly accelerate the point of ejaculation.
Some men like having their balls squeezed or
slapped. Even men with highly sensitive testicles often enjoy a
gentle thumping using the thumb and forefinger rather like shooting
a marble.
The guiche area is between the legs,
balls, and asshole. A small amount of pressure applied to this area
of the penis can also be very erotic to most men and accelerate the
point of ejaculation. Just placing a finger in this area and only
barely making contact with the skin is adequate. The pulsing of the
penis will do the rest and drive many men to ecstacy. Some men
require more pressure for stimulation in this area and a little
lubricant or saliva accompanied by a gentle massaging motion will
have similar results.
Some men, but not all, enjoy a slippery finger
applied to the anus while being sucked. This is something most men
feel very strongly about one way or the other. If they don't like
it, they will probably just move your hand away from the area, but
will certainly let you know if they don't like
it.
If you
gently massage the area around the anus and get a positive response, you
can slowly and gently insert a finger into the anus when the sphincter is properly lubricated and relaxed. It is unwise to
attempt inserting anything into an anus without properly servicing it
before hand. Rectal foreplay is very important.
Should
anyone have additions, deletions, corrections, or innovations regarding
giving or receiving blow jobs, please e-mail them to the Jack Bulldog